Seasons From the Hart

5: Permission to Be Human: Ditching the Fear of Messing Up as a Mom

Written by Deanna Hart | Dec 26, 2024 6:34:24 PM

Hey there, supermoms! In this episode on the Stress-Free Supermoms podcast, we're diving into a topic close to my heart: the fear of making mistakes as a parent. I’m sharing my personal journey through this fear, especially with raising neurodivergent kids, and some hard-won insights on embracing imperfection. Let's explore practical strategies, mindset shifts, and compassionate reminders that it's okay to be human in this parenting journey.

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Parenting is one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences, but it’s also full of moments where we feel we’re falling short. In a world that demands perfection, it's easy to feel afraid of making mistakes as a mom. But I want to tell you something today: it's okay to be imperfect. In fact, giving yourself permission to make mistakes might just be one of the greatest gifts you can offer yourself—and your children.

Why We Fear Making Mistakes as Moms:
Societal expectations, social media perfection, and the desire to raise well-adjusted kids can add pressure to “get it right.” This often leads us into the comparison trap, making us believe that other parents have it all together while we struggle behind closed doors. But parenting isn’t about meeting an unrealistic ideal. It’s about learning, growing, and modeling resilience.

Embracing Imperfection:
Instead of fearing mistakes, let’s try to embrace them as learning opportunities. I’ve had moments where I questioned my parenting choices, especially around my kids’ educational needs as they navigate their own neurodivergent journeys. I've come to realize that my perceived mistakes were often the best lessons, both for me and for my kids.

Strategies for Letting Go of Perfection:

  1. Adopt a Growth Mindset:
    Every mistake is a chance to learn. When we allow ourselves to grow through mistakes, we’re teaching our kids to do the same.
  2. Set Realistic Expectations:
    Instead of chasing perfection, focus on achievable steps. Celebrate progress over perfection, because small wins build confidence and peace of mind.
  3. Model Self-Compassion:
    Treat yourself with kindness. When you model self-compassion, you’re also teaching your kids to approach themselves with understanding and grace.

 

 


A Personal Story:
I recently had a moment where I made a math mistake at my son’s school event, in front of the class! But instead of shrinking, I owned it and used it as a learning moment for myself and my son. By facing my own embarrassment, I showed him that it’s okay to make mistakes—and that they don’t define us.

Conclusion:
It’s time we let go of the unrealistic standards and embrace the idea that parenting is a journey, not a destination. By giving ourselves permission to be human, we can create a supportive environment where both we and our children thrive.

Invitation to Reflect:
Think of a time when you practiced self-compassion in parenting or handled a mistake positively. Join the conversation in the Stress-Free Supermoms Facebook Group to share your stories and learn from others! Remember, by simply caring and trying your best, you are doing an amazing job.