Seasons From the Hart

1: The Oxygen Mask Principle: Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish

Written by Deanna Hart | Oct 21, 2024 10:00:00 AM

Hey there, Mama!

Welcome to the Stress Free Supermom blog. I'm excited you're here, and I'm even more thrilled to share this journey with you.

As a busy mom, I understand the constant whirlwind of stress, anxiety, and the eternal juggling act we call life. That's why I'm passionate about sharing practical tips and strategies to help us transition from chaos to calm.

The Importance of Self-Care

Let's kick things off by talking about something we all tend to overlook—self-care. Honestly, it has always been easy for me to put everyone else first: kids, family, work. But too often, I found myself neglecting my own needs, believing that self-care was selfish or indulgent. Maybe you've felt that way, too. But here's the truth: if we neglect ourselves, we can't truly be there for our loved ones.

“If you’re not taking care of yourself, you won’t be able to take care of others.”

Benefits of Self-Care

Prioritizing self-care reduces stress, anxiety, and even depression. Who doesn't want a sense of calm in this chaotic life? Here are a few benefits of self-care to consider:

  • Prevents Burnout: Self-care fills you with energy and a mental capacity to tackle life's challenges.
  • Improves Mental Health: It lowers stress hormones and enhances your overall well-being.
The Oxygen Mask Policy

Let's get into the famous "Oxygen Mask" policy. On an airplane, you're reminded to put your oxygen mask on first before helping others. This is crucial because if we don’t, we might not be able to assist those around us. This is exactly why self-care should never be seen as selfish—it enables us to care for our kids and families better.

Practical Self-Care Activities

You might be wondering, what exactly falls under self-care? It took me years to figure out, but here are some personal favorites that have worked wonders:

  • Healthy Eating: Choosing nutritious foods over junk food boosts energy and resilience. (If you need guidance, check out Elizabeth Benton’s Primal Potential Podcast for insightful tips.)
  • Mindfulness and Meditation: Taking as little as five minutes for deep breathing can stop anxiety in its tracks. Meditation helps me manage the flood of thoughts and find focus for the day.
  • Socialization: Surrounding yourself with good company is invaluable. Whether it's hanging out with friends or joining a support group, choose to be around people who lift you up.
  • Exercise: Moving your body helps control stress and anxiety. Find an activity you enjoy, be it a simple walk or a class at your local rec center.
  • Joyful Activities: Do something you love that brings happiness, laughter, and positive energy into your life.
Implementing Self-Care in a Busy Life

I know it can be tough to carve out "me time," especially when you're knee-deep in family commitments. Here's what I do:

  • Wake Up Earlier: I get up before my son to enjoy some quiet time. Whether it's sipping coffee, reading, or meditating, those moments are crucial.
  • Setting Boundaries: Although it's a work in progress, I've set boundaries around specific activities like shower time and quiet mornings.
  • Scheduling Play Dates: Combine socialization with your kids having play time, making it a win-win for everyone involved.

 

Building a Supportive Community

Join me in the Stress Free Supermom Facebook group where we can create a supportive network of supermoms cheering each other on. It's a private space for sharing experiences and getting through challenges together.

Remember, self-care isn't selfish—it's essential. By taking care of yourself first, you're better equipped to care for those who matter most.

Thank you so much for joining me on this self-care exploration. I can't wait to hear your thoughts, and if you found this helpful, please connect with our community.

Stay tuned, as I'll be delving into more exciting topics soon!

With love and calmness,

Deanna Hart